VALENTINES DAY

Here comes Valentine’s Day. 🌹

👠You wear your red heels & lace for him…

📲You book her favourite restaurant…

🥵You get into your new figure hugging dress for him…

🍫You buy her some red roses and chocolates…

❤️ You get him a card to say ‘I love you’…

✨ You hide a new pair of golden earrings in her handbag…

It’s dinner time.

You say ‘cheers to us’

You look deep into each other’s eyes from across the table.

But deep inside you feel a little hollow… a little stale… a little strange…

You’re ‘together’ but you also notice a subtle emptiness.

And now a sudden (but gentle) sadness fills your belly & chest…

Your eyes glare up which you try and hide from your partner who takes another sip of their wine.

Underneath this sadness you notice a desire.

A deep yearning.

A yearning for more closeness, more togetherness, more connection.

Internally you think -

“What happened to us?”

You may even find the courage to say it out loud.

“I want the old us back”

You know… (and I know too)

When you couldn’t wait to rip each other’s clothes off.

When you felt excitement each time your boo came home from work.

When you felt impatient to share all the cool things that happened each day, because sharing with each other was the best thing ever.

And now you place your faith into Valentine’s Day to bring ‘the old you’ back?

And it may even do so for one night…

Hot sultry moments in the bedroom. 🔥🥵💦

But then it’s back to reality.

It’s business and relating as usual.

Back to your ‘new’ normal.

A little empty.

A little unfulfilled.

A little vanilla.

So you may have guessed it -

Valentine’s Day ain’t gonna fix it.

This trend.

This novelty.

This quick fix.

This hit of dopamine to escape the deeper disconnects that you are feeling in your relationship.

But I LOVE that you are trying. 🥺❤️

I salute you for having a desire to spend time together, do things together and also deepen your bond.

This to me as a Relationship Strategist is a positive sign.

Some couples avoid it all together.

Sadly, many of these couples have stopped trying.

They bypass Valentine’s Day by saying things like -

“Every day is an opportunity to celebrate love”

“I’m just not a Valentines Day person”

“It just feels like an obligation”

“I can’t stand the fuss”

Sure, some couples (ONLY SOME = VERY FEW) in fact master the celebration of Love each day.

They are thriving in Love.

Good for them. 🥰

But the truth is, most couples aren’t.

Most couples who either -

1. Use Valentines Day as a quick fix

2. Avoid Valentines Day

Are missing the key ingredients of a thriving relationship dynamic.

It’s not shameful.

- They simply just don’t know how to.

Relationships don’t come with a manual.

So I created one. 😉

MY WORK IS THE MANUAL. 🌹

Linda xx